Infidelity has the potential to be one of the most destructive events to ever happen to a couple. Deep feelings of guilt, blame and shame can often mar the relationship for a long time after the affair is over.
It usually leaves both of you asking questions of yourself and your partner that you never expected to ever need ask.
“Do you still love me?”, “What did I do to deserve this?”, “How can I ever trust you again?”, “Who? Where? What? Why?”.
This type of constant questioning, where the relationship and the other person are on trial over and over again for their actions, can lead to the ultimate break down of the relationship.
Without taking steps to understand what happened it will be difficult to get the relationship back on track, or move on in a healthy way.
Working with a therapist during this undoubtedly difficult time can help you both face up to what has happened and facilitate a conversation that can help shed some light on the feelings that led to the affair happening in the first place.
These can often be difficult conversations to have, but working with someone who is prepared to listen to you both and help you to start communicating with each other about what happened, where both of you will get to voice your feelings, you can start to repair some of the damage that has been done.