Individual Therapy
Get a better understanding of yourself so you can better understand your relationships
Scared to commit
If you’re feeling pressure to commit to a relationship or worried that you’ll never feel ready to settle down even though you want to, it may be worth exploring what’s holding you back.
The idea of ‘together forever’ strikes some people with fear. Maybe you think you want to commit to someone, but when faced with it, you run a mile.
Perhaps the other person always ends up doing something that has you thinking “There’s no way I can spend my life with you!”. Deciding to commit to a relationship can be a daunting thought for some.
The decision can be littered with thoughts about what you may need to ‘give up’ for the sake of being in the relationship.
Many people don’t realise that the thoughts and feelings you have about being part of a couple can often be linked to experiences from your past that have left a negative impression of what it means to be in a relationship.
Even if there is a deep desire to want to be part of a couple these things can stop you from being able to make that step.
Talking to a therapist may help you discover what is holding you back and how to get past potential barriers so you can experience a long-lasting connection with someone.
Can’t get over an ex?
If you can’t stop thinking about your ex despite your relationship having ended, working through these feelings with a therapist can help you manage the loss you feel and find a way to move on.
Healing after a break-up can be difficult to do. You can get into a spiral of questions; “What’s wrong with me?”, “Was it something I did?”, “How could they do that to me?”, “Will I ever be able to move on?”.
It can be easy to get into a cycle of blame, recrimination, self-depreciation and even shame at the thought that you’ve ‘lost’ them.
You may hope to win them back, or you may wish to finally get over them once and for all so you can move on to a new relationship.
As much as it may not feel like it when you’re in an emotional mist of loss, the end of a relationship can allow you the opportunity to look back and understand what happened, so you can begin to release the emotional grip the memory of it has over you.
Sometimes, it’s not about finding a way back to your partner, but more about finding a way back to yourself. Speaking with a therapist can help with this.
Choosing the wrong person
Working with a therapist can help you understand why you’re attracted to certain ‘types’ and consider how you can make different choices in future.
You may find yourself with people who all seem to have the same type of personality or similar traits, and the relationship goes nowhere. You may constantly get treated badly, your partners present the same issues, or they end up being unavailable.
This may leave you wondering where you're going wrong with your choices.
Sometimes people can end up in a relationship with people who seem very similar to their 'no good' ex because that type of character reminds or represents something to you. Something that you may not even be aware of yourself.
It could be that they make you feel a certain way, or their character reminds you of someone important from your past, such as a parent.
These choices may be unconscious and bringing some awareness to the beliefs or behaviour means you’ll be able to make a more informed decision on if you want to make the same choice again, or not.
Getting started is easy
Send us a message
Complete our enquiry form to be contacted by a therapist. We will endeavour to be in touch within 48 hours of receiving your enquiry
Let’s chat
We will organise a time for you to have a brief conversation with a therapist to get a sense of what’s going on for you at the moment.
Get support
If we agree you would benefit from ongoing therapy, we will work together to address the issues preventing you from having lasting relationships
Feeling forever single
We can help you understand some of the barriers that are stopping you from finding lasting love.
By gaining an understanding of yourself as an individual and as a partner within a relationship, we may unlock an understanding of yourself that you hadn’t realised is tripping you up.
If you’re single, it’s easy to feel as though the dating merry-go-round is getting you down. Maybe you’re tired of trawling through dating apps, or it seems as if everyone else is settling down, but you.
Finding a partner can feel like an endless pursuit if, more often than not, you find yourself single rather than in a relationship.
It’s normal in these situations for you to start questioning what’s wrong with you, or go the opposite way and put up “I don’t care anyway” walls.
These can be common thoughts for singles looking for a committed partner.
We don’t offer ‘dating advice’, but maybe what you need is a better sense of yourself and your worth, rather than tips and tricks that get you a first date, but don’t create a lasting relationship. We want you help you create a deeper understanding of who you are and what’s important to you so you can make a lasting impression on your next date.
Partner won’t engage
If you want a long-term relationship but it seems as though they always slip through your fingers, talking to a therapist may help. You will be able to explore what you feel goes wrong and your therapist can help you recognise if there are blocks that stop you being able to get to the next level.
You may feel as though your relationships break down after a few months or years. Or maybe you tend to hit the same bumps in the road which ultimately brings your relationships to an end.
Some people may have particular patterns that you don’t recognise are there. Or it could be something to do with the type of person you go for.
Whatever it is, taking the time to invest in yourself to understand how you show up in relationships could get you over the stumbling blocks you’ve faced in the past and on your way to a more fulfilling, committed long-term relationship in future.
Struggling to hold onto a relationship
If you want a long-term relationship but it seems as though they always slip through your fingers, talking to a therapist may help. You will be able to explore what you feel goes wrong and your therapist can help you recognise if there are blocks that stop you being able to get to the next level.
You may feel as though your relationships break down after a few months or years. Or maybe you tend to hit the same bumps in the road which ultimately brings your relationships to an end.
Some people may have particular patterns that you don’t recognise are there. Or it could be something to do with the type of person you go for.
Whatever it is, taking the time to invest in yourself to understand how you show up in relationships could get you over the stumbling blocks you’ve faced in the past and on your way to a more fulfilling, committed long-term relationship in future.
How do I start?
Click the button below and use the form to tell us a little about what you’d like to address and we’ll take it from there.
Most people appreciate a free 15-minute call before scheduling an initial consultation. This gives you a chance to ask any questions you may have and get comfortable with taking the next step in working through your relationship difficulties.
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